Monday, January 14, 2008

Unity In Prayer...

Back in the summer, I read that another mom (Storing Up Treasures In Heaven) had felt compelled to set aside Mondays as a day of prayer and fasting for Haitian adoptions. This really touched me and I made a point of also using that as a day to pray specifically for all the children, families and government officials involved in Haitian adoption. My desire was simply to pray the children home. But as autumn came, and homeschooling began again, I have to admit that I was less faithful about setting aside time for specific and purposeful prayer.

More recently, though, the stakes seem to have become greater. There is a very real risk that Haitian adoption will become extremely restricted. It will be nearly impossible for families like ours to adopt if the proposed laws pass (info on petition here). The number of all foreign adoptions has gone down. This is not because there are less orphans in the world or because poor countries are now, magically, able to care for their orphaned & abandoned children. There is a push, specifically by UNICEF, to end international adoption. Why? They'll say that children belong in their own culture. From a November AP piece on this topic:


...By contrast, another adoption expert, Harvard law professor Elizabeth Bartholet, depicted the new numbers as "totally depressing."


She said China and Russia reflected a trend in which countries opened themselves up to international adoption, then scaled back. She attributed this in part to UNICEF and other international organizations encouraging countries to care for children within their homeland, even when domestic programs such as foster care might be inadequate.


"UNICEF is a major force," Bartholet said. "They've played a major role in jumping on any country sending large number of kids abroad, identifying it as a problem rather than a good thing."


UNICEF's child protection spokesman, Geoffrey Keele, said the U.N. agency does believe it is preferable to care for orphaned or abandoned children in their own countries if good homes could be found for them.
(my emphasis)

The question becomes - HAS ANYONE FROM UNICEF EVER BEEN TO HAITI??? Does it appear that there are good homes for the more than ONE MILLION orphans (and I've heard that's a conservative estimate)? The issue is not the fear of child trafficking, as UNICEF claims. There are more than enough safeguards (homestudies, immigration approvals, etc...) to insure that adoptive parents are bringing these children into their homes to become part of their families.

My opinion is that this is a much bigger issue than corrupt governments, UNICEF or any other institution that pushes to keep orphans in desperate conditions. I truly believe that there is evil in this world that does not want children to be exposed to freedom, prosperity and more importantly, the knowledge of the saving grace of Jesus Christ. An enormous percentage of families that adopt internationally are Christians.

Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father is this:
caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to be corrupted by the world.

Whether you choose to stand in unity with us on Mondays, or would like to set aside another time to lift up these issues, please join us in praying specifically for:
  • the orphans of the world (estimated at 150 million - at least one million of which are in Haiti)
  • the continued opportunity for Christian families to adopt them from the most horrifying of conditions
  • that any unjust laws are stopped before they pass

I know there is power in unified prayer. There are a number of adoption blogs that I read frequently and I pray for those families and children on a regular basis. If you are adopting or have a specific prayer request - please post a comment or send an e-mail so I can join with you.

Saturday, January 12, 2008

Please Follow This Link...

And look at these faces. Do you know someone who could make a difference in the life of one of these precious teenagers? Cara posted this on her blog and I feel like it really needs to be shared.

I know that with the proposed law changes in Haiti, adoption might not be a possibility for some. Until the situation is resolved, some orphanages and agencies will not match children with people who don't fit within the potential guidelines. But....

I believe that God could lead the perfect families to find and fall in love with these children. Please pass this link along. Thank you!

Monday, January 7, 2008

Our Little Guy...

I don't think Jim realized just how itty-bitty Asa was until he saw this picture (taken by another mom on the trip). His cheeks are deceivingly chubby and in most pictures, you'd assume he's the size of an average two year old. He actually weighs less than all our other babies were at age one.


Isn't he precious!?!?

Thursday, January 3, 2008

More Pictures From Haiti in December...

Can be found here.

I hope everyone had a blessed Christmas. We're busy unpacking from a very long trip and putting away all our treasured Christmas decorations. I feel like, with the holidays over and a new year beginning, we'll be acutely aware of the passage of time. Each month that goes by has a significant meaning since we have kind of a "mental timeline" of how the adoption process will go. Even if we remain conservative in our assumptions, I've come to realize that nothing is predictable in Haiti. So we just wait and pray.

Tuesday, December 18, 2007

Merry Christmas...

Praying that next year brings waiting children home to their families!
More Christmas Pictures on our family website.

Saturday, December 15, 2007

Home Again...

And what a different experience. The orphanage & staff were wonderful, just like last time. I was, yet again, enchanted by Haiti and all the people there. But this trip was so much better because my boy was well!! Asa was still quite the snuggle-bug and really wanted to be held a lot. He did feel secure enough to get down and play a few times, though. He gave me some shy smiles at first, and later on, some big laughs. He's such a little pumpkin and will fit in so well with our gang.

He said mama a few times and "Ma-chine" when the trucks would drive up the orphanage drive-way. I brought some cookies for him and while he was eating, I asked him to share with me by pointing to my mouth and saying "Mama manje." I guess that was a totally new concept for him. But when he put a piece in my mouth, I said a very happy "Meci!" and he just beamed with pride. So over the next few days when we'd eat, he'd always offer me little pieces of his food with a big smile. What a cutie pie!! He looked at the photo book I made and I said everyone's names as he pointed to the pictures.

I also got to spend a little more time with the aunties (the young women who care for the children). These women are amazing. And I'm sure that the jobs they have at the orphanage are better than most positions they could obtain in Haiti. So really - this amazing orphanage is doing more than just caring for children.

Asa with Jasmine and Mona... the aunties in his baby room.


Asa eating!


They have the whole orphanage decorated so beautifully for Christmas. They truly want the children to have happy memories. This is Asa with Sister (the nun who lives there). Every evening, the big kids sit around the Christmas tree and are taught Christmas carols. They are preparing for Christmas day when they'll have a big party. It's precious!

I didn't get any smiley pictures because he wasn't thrilled when I'd put him down. But check out those CHEEKS!!!! I could not stop kissing them.
So, of course, I am missing him more than ever. Now - everything we do as a family is just a bit harder because I imagine him with us. And I have to be honest and say that there's a little bit of fear because of UNICEF's increased interest in Haitian adoptions and adoption laws. When they get involved - things slow down. Please pray for everyone adopting from Haiti and all the children who need to come home to their families.

Wednesday, December 5, 2007

Missing Both My Boys' Birthdays...

Asa turns two today! That's so strange for us because he was only 17 months old in the first picture we saw of him and we accepted his referral when he was 18 months. We've already missed so much of his little life. But I'll be with him next week.

Our Camden turns four next Tuesday, and I'll be in Haiti with Asa. Shhhhhhh - don't tell him. We're going to celebrate his birthday on Friday the 14th, after I return. And since he's little, he'll never know the difference - but it's still a little sad for me. His birthday is a significant one because I always reflect on my amazing 31 hour, drug-free labor. No kidding - it was a great labor and delivery. But we both went downhill quickly after his birth and had some scary complications. So it's also a time of extreme gratitude that we both recovered and that I was blessed with my first boy.

I can't help but wonder what Asa's Haitian mother is thinking & feeling today. We hope you'll join us in lifting her, and the rest of his biological family, in prayer.


Laboring at home with my wonderful doula and the fabulous birthing ball.

Jim with Camden - 12/11/03